The concept of a white wedding has been a constant for almost as long as people have been getting married. Unquestionably, there is a strong history behind the concept, but why is this, and is it still relevant in the present day?
For many, the reasoning behind a “white wedding” is that, on the day she comes to the altar, a bride is virginal. It is immediately easy to see why some people feel the concept to be outdated. In no way is this a slight on the woman getting married, but in the present day, a majority of couples who marry have been living, or at least occasionally spending the night together before they tie the knot. Is it really dishonest to wear white, the color of purity, when you have had a physical relationship with your prospective spouse?
Many would argue not. A white dress can be part of a wedding for more reasons than tradition. Some designs practically demand to be made in white because they are so intricate that adding color to the mix would be somewhat garish. Some people just want to wear white. If tradition were our only guide, we would all still be living in mud huts.
On the day you get married there are only two opinions that should be given foremost prominence, and they are those of the bride and of the groom. If you want a white wedding, then have one – and if you don’t, then that is also fine.
Although we live in a world where diverse tastes are accepted by more and more people, it has to be considered that there are some things which are very hard to argue in favor of. Not least of these is the terrifying three-word phrase: “Celebrity Inspired Wedding”. And yet, if you look briefly at the results of a Google search, you will find that there are many people making this choice. Considering how the marriages resulting from these weddings often turn out, it has to be wondered if taking inspiration from the celebrity world is quite wise.
If the celebrity is someone you have long admired and who influences your style in other ways, then there is an argument to say that you are being true to yourself by being true to them. If, however, you have simply seen the wedding photographs from their expensive and publicity-soaked wedding, you might want to slam on the brakes and think about things. Fashion is an unforgiving mistress. At any given time, a fashionable wedding might look like a real triumph, but those photos will exist in ten, twenty, thirty years’ time, and you are liable to cringe if the celebrity who inspired the look got divorced acrimoniously three months later.
Celebrities get a lot of latitude in what they do because they are celebrities. The media want to keep them sweet and will usually refrain from asking them what exactly they think they are doing. It is wiser to stick to the classics than follow a trend when permanence is an issue. If you want to follow a celebrity, wait until you’re married and copy their haircut.
There is an increasingly large market these days for weddings that form part of a holiday. To be slightly more specific, many people are now taking the choice to get married in another country, allowing themselves a choice of settings which can be visually breathtaking, if not entirely traditional. There are many people who, when this concept is raised, think immediately of the celebrity weddings which have taken place on beaches with one or more of the participants less than fully clothed, sober or conscious. This does not tell the full story at all.
Certainly it could be argued that there is a touch of cynicism in combining the words “tourist” and/or “market” with the word “wedding”. And yet many places have developed a reputation as destinations for whole wedding parties rather than just the honeymoon. By widening the range of where you wish to hold your wedding, you can allow exciting settings such as castles, forests or just about anything you deem appropriate. As well as a geographical dimension, it can also allow a historic element to be included in your wedding.
Thinking more generally, it also means that the wedding photographs will be something to behold, that you do not have far to go for the honeymoon, and that, for couples who come from different places and live far from their families, at least the wedding can be at a neutral venue. It may not be one for the traditionalists, but it is a popular choice for an increasing number of people.